We often think that relationships are ended after a major fight or mistake, but the truth is, relationships are destroyed by some of the seemingly small things you may be doing everyday.
Breakups don’t happen overnight – or by accident- they happen because of small, yet significant, mistakes. Here are the top three major mistakes you could be making that are destroying your relationship.
3. You harbor your negative emotions.
When things get a little rocky, your instinct is to calm the situation right away. While holding in any negative emotions will resolve the issue quickly, it will eventually end up resurfacing in the form of jealousy, resentment, or paranoia. In the end, holding in even the smallest negativities will suck the happiness and love out of any relationship.
Instead, air out your issues as they happen, and ensure that you and your partner have resolved the problem fully before moving on.
2. You’re laying all the blame on your partner.
Think about the last fight you had. If you mainly spoke about your partner’s actions, you may need to step back and reevaluate. Maybe your request wasn’t as clear or rational as you thought it had been.
Every relationship is a two-way street, and as much as you try to deny it, your partner isn’t the only one to blame when something goes wrong. The more you start focusing on your own actions, the sooner you’ll begin to see patterns in your behavior, and be able to fix the situation.
Not to mention, throwing all the blame on another person can feel like an attack, which is never the way an interaction with the person you love should feel.
1. You neglect yourself.
Neglecting to take care of your appearances can mean your comfortable with your partner, but it’s a slippery slope to neglecting your own feelings and your own identity. When you neglect yourself emotionally, you become dependent on your partner for validation and your self worth, which feeds your fear of being rejected. No relationship will last when you’re constantly afraid of being rejected.
When you learn to take care of yourself separate from your relationship, you’ll be less fearful of rejection, which in turn, lets you open your heart more fully to loving your partner.
Are you guilty of any of these relationship-wrecking mistakes? Share with us in the comments below.
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